Wednesday, August 17, 2011

I need some advice on what to do with my relationship.?

Well be prepared this may be long. Basically I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. When we first started being together we were inseparable. Always did everything together always talking etc. At the time I was 17 he was 18 and graduated. He lived at his parents and I was still at my parents house and at school. 4 months after we started dating we were ual active and I found out I was pregnant. A couple months later I graduated and really needed to find a job I eventually got a job and it happened to be right next to where his mother lived so we were living with her temporarily. We still were doing everything then and still had quite often (by then I was 18 and graduated and he was 19 then) a couple months after that we moved into his mom's fiance's house. and a month after our daughter was born. I was on maternity leave and which it lasted much longer then it should have but they seemed to have lost my papers for returning and never called me and never had room on the list to get my scheduled which I was pissed about. My boyfriend was very helpful at this time and he never complained and he was supportive etc. I had a c section so for about a month after birth I finally was done with the pain etc and over my post par-tum depression. My boyfriend then started being difficult, kept basically saying I wasn't doing anything or helping at all when I was doing all the work at this time and he just had to change a couple diapers once in a while he was unemployed and going to school all this time as well. I was close to saying I wanted to break up at this point because he just didn't seem to notice that he was just going to school and barely helping me with our daughter. This went on for a couple months and later after that they finally got me in on the schedule at work I was down to coins and all from what I had saved up so I kept calling in telling them to get my hours. A month after that I lost my job. I was depressed then over that and my boyfriend wasn't helping at all still. And he was still at this point saying I was doing nothing to help and that he did all the work. This basically made me start ignoring him because I couldn't even talk to him then. I was feeling starved of feeling loved at this time and I was playing an online game in which you can marry and all on. And I was talking to other people on this game. Started really talking to another man on here and he told me he loved me. I couldn't say it back and all and he was there basically giving me love and I felt happy there and I was just so pissed at my boyfriend. the guy I was talking to wanted me to leave my boyfriend for him and come move down there with him but when I was talking to him about it he basically wanted to be him first in front of my daughter. I said hell no and basically told him to **** off then (pardon my language) Oddly enough when I said that my boyfriend started being a bit more helpful again and we were talking a little bit more but before I knew it he stopped again. I felt like he was just with me because of our daughter, and that he couldn't give a **** about me (again pardon my language but its what I basically thought at the time) I then was talking to another guy and again this one started saying he loved me etc. and again I couldn't return that. He actually then started helping me financially in return for me helping him on the game we were playing since he started to work he couldn't get some things done everyday so I did that for him and he sent me some money for internet and a couple times for diapers for my daughter. Again at this time I was broke again and I couldn't get financial help or food help from the state, and my boyfriend wasn't looking for a job either and still going to college. So I was doing all the work again and just toughing it through it because I was hoping my boyfriend would be happy with me again and start being the person he used to be when we started dating and after our daughter was born. Eventually the man I was talking to again explained he loved me and wanted me to move in with him (Another one I know right it seems like they are throwing themselves at me) And this one wanted my daughter to be first and him second. I didn't mind that thought in a way because I wanted attention I wanted to be loved but thing is he lived in a different country as me as well. I didn't want to separate my daughter from her father because she did love him and I can't get myself to do that. So I had pushed this one away now. I couldn't do it. After that me and my boyfriend and our daughter were kicked out of where we were living and we moved into my parents house. And dan had found a job so we could afford some things again and he was paying rent to my parents then and I was in charge of cleaning. This time now I was 19 and he was 20. So then playing out the past year then is He had this job for a couple months he got laid off

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